What We Build to Last


Vacation is reflective time for me. I turn everything off (mostly) and go within. I’m not the usual tourist. I go to the local places to eat. Find nature. Find the healing roots. I came across the Mayan ruins in the picture above while taking an off-the-beaten path.

Turning 50

Today’s journey is especially inward for me as it’s the eve of my 50th birthday. I’ve had so many thoughts and mini-revelations over the past few days, since I’ve had some quiet time after turning in my latest book manuscript. Some small ones, for example, and I’ll write more about this one in another post – I picked up a fashion magazine to look at in preparation for an upcoming photo shoot and realized I’ve crossed into the “What to Wear in Your 50s” category: staid solids in burgundy tones, with decidedly flatter heels. Studies all suggest (which I’ll corroborate) that sex just keeps getting better after 50, even in long-term relationships. So what’s with the clothes that bury our fire?

We should wear what reflects who we are – at any age. My granddaughter is a living example of this. What that girl combines! She told me last week that she was wearing her “science pajamas” (they have a chemistry motif – yes, her parents are a public health professional and an MD) as “day clothes” because, “Really, Biba, I don’t do science at night, I do it in the day.”

Defining Success for Ourselves

I’ve thought a lot about success lately – what it means and what it takes to get there. It all depends on one’s definition. My definition puts happiness first. For me, happiness means living in emotional and spiritual integrity, feeling healthy (healthy is the new sexy, after all), and having plenty of time to say yes to my family. Yes, I can be there. Yes, I can do that because I have time for you. Love, healthy relationships, and self care are at the top of my success list. 

Sometimes worldly success is at odds with my definition. Worldly success tells us we should lean in, have it all, be all, do it all. But I don’t actually think that’s possible – not having it all, all at the same time, and I think many women who say they are doing it have a live-in nanny, relatives who are co-raising their kids, have connections to success that circumvented the hard work and time it usually takes, or are just plain full of it. I know how hard I work, and I know that achieving certain levels of success does require sacrifice. But lopsided success, a term that a coach once shared with me, the kind where you have a super successful career but your personal life is a mess, is not my kind of success. Nor is burnout, the other consequence of trying to do and have it all.

Don’t get me wrong. My personal life isn’t always golden. I have my shit just like everyone else. I have meltdowns, insecurities, frustrations, I can be impatient with my husband, I sometimes worry about what people think of me and my work, I sometimes forget and start to place value on external validation. I’ve lost it with my kids. I have inner work to do. Even at 50. Or 49 and 364 days. But I define my success by the fact that my four now grown kids still like to hang out with me (doesn’t mean you’re not successful if you’re on the outs with your kids – I don’t talk to my mom at all – again, another blog).

I’ve also realized that to me success is a life in which I don’t feel run ragged all the time. It’s a life that feels spacious. Where my inner world feels that there’s enough time. Where I have time to answer your Facebook questions personally (I keep getting urged by biz associates to “hire it out” but I won’t – because I love talking with you, for real, one on one. Yes, YOU – like this.)

It means staying real, authentic. And having the time to do what I love.

Building Things that Last

Going to 1000-year old Mayan ruins a few days ago also got me thinking about what we  build in our lives that lasts. For me that’s so important. It’s legacy. It’s living intentionally. It’s living in the now but thinking of the next generations. I am trying to build things that last for women. 

I get to manifest my work and personal “superpowers” in a variety of interesting ways – it suits my Gemini nature – I write, teach, travel, get on big stages, work with women one-on-one and in small groups, create online programs, appear in magazines and on TV. It’s all wonderful. In thinking of how I most want to spend my time, what I most get to do with this “one precious life” as Mary Oliver has famously called our time here on Earth, is teaching – whether online, in small groups, or the deep dive into healing with my patients – and writing what I learn about from my studies, my patients, my students.

Here’s why, as an example: On my second day of vacation I turned on my computer and found the most lovely email from a woman I helped with fertility problems – she’d had her baby the day before and wrote to tell me the news. After two years of trying to get pregnant and struggling with emotional challenges, she found power in her body and mind. She became pregnant, stayed open and vulnerable and honest, and had to face a lot of inner demons about fear and anxiety. She did it. And when she eventually went into labor, she did it mostly at home, arrived at the hospital nearly fully dilated, and had her beautiful daughter a few hours later. It’s that simple. My work brings amazing women into my life.

Giving Back and Getting Better with Age – Herbal Medicine for Women

In gratitude, I want to give back to you. It’s my 50th birthday tomorrow. This also marks 35 years of my work with herbs and midwifery, women and healing. Being here in the Mayan Yucatan Peninsula, I’ve allowed myself to get a couple of massages. They were both given to me by Mayan women. Such strength and power in their hands. One is a partera (“midwife” in Spanish). The other did a treatment with hot herbal packs that she rubbed on my body – an herbal hot stone massage is the best comparison I can think of). We talked, in my limited Spanish and her limited English, and discovered that both her grandmother and my great-grandmother shared in common that they did “cupping” – a practice usually thought to be part of Traditional Chinese Medicine but that is actually much more broadly distributed than that around the world – extending clearly to Eastern European Jews (my great-grandmother was Hungarian) and to the Mayan people. Laying there I had the idea to celebrate my birthday with a give back to you.

There is little more powerful in this life than listening to your body, knowing your body, and knowing the tools to heal yourself as a woman – body, mind, spirit. My course Herbal Medicine for Women creates that deep dive. It’s what I’ve built – and continue to build – in my life – to last. The legacy of teaching women how to care for ourselves. And like we all do, the course keeps getting better with age. This year the course is transforming. It’s easier to use, to complete, and fit into your busy life. There’s more real time with me. There’s more video. And there’s more access to advanced training. You also get to be part of a whole new shift in my focus on women’s primary care, along with the best training on herbs for pregnancy and birth. It just keeps deepening.

This course is a powerful journey – and you will have lifelong access – to discovering herbs and the healing capacity of your body. Whether you want to learn this for yourself, your daughters and granddaughters, or your community or health practice, I urge you to learn it. Learn to take your health care back in your hands. Learn to help other women to heal. One in 4 women is on an antidepressant now. Many are on addictive anxiety medications. Half of all women over 50 end up on a statin for cholesterol, but this medication causes diabetes in half of all women who take it. One in 3 will give birth by cesarean – more than half of which are unnecessary. Our kids will get 20 rounds of antibiotics before they reach adulthood. The consequences of this are enormous. There’s so much suffering we can prevent and heal by taking this knowledge into our own hands.

I invite you to celebrate my birthday with me, honoring women healers, honoring our ancestors who used food and herbs for healing (if you look back far enough, I guarantee this is in your family history, too), and honoring yourself. In the course you will also define success for yourself – it’s a feminine, powerful, self-defined success – and if your dream of success includes women and healing, join me.

Herbal Medicine for Women Sale

Tuesday, June 7th through Thursday June 16th 

For the first 48 hours (6/7 8 am thru 6/9 8am) 35% off for individuals ($1397.50)

50% off ($1075) for groups of 3 or more.

After that the course will remain on sale with discounted pricing until Thursday, June 16th at 8 AM EST.  

Click HERE to learn all about Herbal Medicine for Women and to enroll.

Additional benefits of this sale include:

  • A $2000 scholarship toward my upcoming functional medicine for women professional program – a perfect complement to Herbal Medicine for women (coming October 2016-ish)
  • Free access to my upcoming online Adrenal-Thyroid Course
  • Free access to my upcoming online Leaky Gut course
  • Exclusive access to HMW live chats for lesson reviews
  • Exclusive option to join a Mastermind Women’s Healing Group with me – available only to HMW and Functional Medicine for Women students
  • Preview access to all new updates that will coming in the 2nd edition of my textbook, Botanical Medicine for Women’s Health

I hope you’ll join me in this next phase of my healing journey and allow me to join you in yours.

After 35 years as a midwife, herbalist, mom, and quite a few years as a medical doctor specializing in women’s and children’s health – I think you’ll find that I have the most seasoned, professional, and effective program available – and the community of over 1500 women in the program, with new streamlined requirements, will make this course a dream program for you.

I’m only turning 50 once, so this is the only time the course will be available at this low a price again (well, when I turn 75…100…).

With love, and in deep connection,

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Alan Steinborn

Happy Lovely Birthday! Glad you exist! Alan

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Maria

Happy Birthday dr. Aviva! So thankful for all your great work! Keep rocking!

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Chabelly

Two words Aviva, Thank You! For your authenticity, transparency and kindness I am ever so thankful. You are truly an inspiration.

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Carol G

I hope your special day is filled with lots of love and fun. Happy birthday!

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Daphne Lyell

Happy birthday Aviva The discount for the bigger groups..is that per group or do each person in the group pay that much? Once you clarify we can decide as the Rand/Dollar exchange is really poor currently Regards in health Daphne Lyell

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    Megan Liebmann

    Hi Daphne, Thanks for your note! The price for the group is per person so each person pays $1,075. I hope this helps! Best, Megan- Aviva Romm’s Executive Assistant and Online Nutrition Expert

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Stephanie

Happy Birthday 50th Aviva!!! I love reading about your definition of success, I feel that aligns perfectly with what I believe as well. I so wish that I could afford this course and this sale, as I'm sure you know being a new mom is actually pretty darn expensive in this day and age. But this is my life work, and I'm so grateful that you offer this to women now. I cannot wait to dive into this work and have you as my teacher one day. Many blessings and I wish you a wonderful year.

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emma mclaughlin

Happy birthday Aviva! A really lovely read ???? ????

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RADKA

Sweet 50th birthday, Aviva!☺????????

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Annette

Happy birthday, fellow Gemini Girl. Thank you for all your inspiration. Have a great birthday.

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Hillery

I have been manifesting a way to take this course with you for the last three months and then I got your email today and wow.....it is within reach! I can make it happen with this discount. Thanks Aviva!

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    Candice

    Hi Hillary! Have you already applied? If not, would you by any chance be interested in applying as a group for the extra discount? I have one person interested but we are looking for at least one more to form a group. TYIA

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Kristen Dilley

Thank you for this opportunity! There is a possibility that I have found a group of three to enroll. How would we do this to benefit from this amazing sale. When I click the enroll option I'm not seeing that option. Although, admittedly, I am on my phone without my reading glasses :) Happy Birthday!

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    Megan Liebmann

    Hi Kristen, Wonderful!! Aviva looks forward to connecting with all of you!! The link probably didn't work because the sale started today (Aviva's Birthday!!). If you are still having trouble with the link, go ahead and email me at [email protected] and we will get you all set up. Warmly, Megan- Aviva Romm’s Executive Assistant and Online Nutrition Expert

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Marcea

Beautiful picture! Happy 50tH Aviva! I only hope I look that good when I meet 50 years!! Can not wait to start the program as I think it will fit in perfectly with my Acupuncture/TCM internship.

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Margo Mullein

P.S. Many many birthday blessings!

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Marta Canfield

Hi! This is an amazing sale! I have had this on my To Do Wish List. Does a payment plan (like you have offered with first one large payment and then 2 smaller payments) apply to this sale? Thank you.

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    Megan Liebmann

    Hi Marta! Usually Aviva offers a payment plan option for the Herbal Medicine for Women course, but we took that down for today and Wednesday while Aviva is offering such a steep (and unprecedented) discount. The 35/50 option is only for today and tomorrow. The sale will continue on Thursday and for another week but at slightly higher cost — though still at a very significant discount — and we will have a payment plan option again. If you go back to http://avivaromm.wpengine.com/herbal-medicine-for-women on Thursday, you will see a payment plan option. Warm wishes, Megan- Aviva Romm’s Executive Assistant and Online Nutrition Expert

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Stepfanie

Happy Birthday, Aviva. I, too, am a Gemini! I appreciate your candor and honesty. When earlier this year I read that you had gone to medical school in your late 30s, it gave me such hope and inspired me. Before I turned 35 a couple of weeks ago, the anticipation of that milestone briefly led to some hand-wringing and regrets. But I do love my life, and I quickly realized that I needed to shift my perspective. This post was a beautiful reminder of what really matters. Thank you, as always, for sharing your wisdom with us.

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Syed Kazim Raza Zaidi

Wish you a very HAPPY BIRTHDAY full of joy and happiness. Wish you all the best.

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Joanne Oyer

Happy Birthday, Aviva! ❤️???????? Joanne

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Jenn Chic

Happy Birthday Aviva! As I get ready to have baby #2 I've pulled out your books so you can join me on this beautiful journey and hold my hand just like you did with my first born two years ago. Thank you so much for your legacy with me - pregnancy, birthing and being a mom and woman have been enriched so much but what you have taught me. I am so grateful for You!! All the best xo

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Natalie

Happy Birthday, Aviva! What a beautiful example you are to us all!

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Nathalie

Happy Birthday beautiful woman!! I wish you the loveliest day and most wonderful year ahead! Keep doing what you do! ^_^ Nathalie

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Laura

Happy Birthday Aviva, I was thinking about you at the Medicines from the Earth conference in Black Mountain this weekend !!

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Sherry G.

Very well said ... Happy Birthday !!!!

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Helena Wu DeMars

You are leaving a legacy for all women- tools to reclaim agency over their own health and that of their families. This will ripple out into society and hopefully bring positive change to how we all live.

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Nicole Bielicki

Dear Aviva, Thank you, Thank you, Thank you! For your generosity, the wonderful woman that you are and for all the work that you do. I'm on a transforming journey so this amazing offer fits perfectly with the path I am on right now. Your Herbal Medicine Course is a DREAM program for me. I'm so excited about starting your course. I celebrate and honour you. What an inspiration you to me! Happy 50th Birthday! Lots of Love, Nicole from East Melbourne, Victoria, Australia xxx

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tori

Happy Birthday Aviva, You are an incredible woman. Thank you for sharing your beautiful spirit with us. Tori

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Rebecca Boothe

Happy Birthday Aviva! We share the same birthday, I turned 38 on June 7. I read 'Taking Charge of your Fertility' ten years ago (subsequently conceiving my beautiful son just after reading it) and now following your journey as a health care practitioner with so much wisdom, you continue to inspire me (and many others)! I am a student of Naturopathic Medicine, and you are truly a beacon for women practitioners who answer the call of integrative medicine and you play a pivotal role in the new face of healthcare. I applaud you, I respect you and I hope to learn much more from you. Enjoy your birthday, your amazing holiday and this new decade of your life. All the best!

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Lori Ann Feig-Sandoval

Happy 50th! Twenty-two years ago we were all awaiting Cory's arrival... his due date being June 19 (and his arrival was July 5). You've been on quite a journey since then, as we all have. I'm grateful you practice publicly, and so thankful that you celebrate the importance of family and of "down" time --unscheduled play or reflection time. Danny and I wish you all the best for your next 50!

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Lara

Happy birthday Aviva and many happy wishes for the future! :)

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Erica Andrews

So sad to have missed this! Happy birthday sweet Aviva!

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